Principle 6. Use the Power of Homemade & Handwritten
The final point I want to share with you is the Power of Homemade & Hand Written Words.I strongly suggest to you that by investing the time to put down in words what a blessing your child is to you and your family, and express the specifics of each child’s life to show them how aware you are of their personal life, how much you care and that you are there for them whenever they need you for anything without judgment—will pay huge dividends when they grow older and face those difficult decisions on their life.
Texting and emails are okay, but they cannot replace what is hand written by you. In our high-tech and social media world we all know how easy it is to send out an email or a text. Conversely, we all know the time it takes to sit down and thoughtfully write out a card or a letter. It gives it so much more meaning.
I used to do this when my children were younger (I still do it with cards). They were all very active in sports and performance-oriented activities and I used that time to write them letters to encourage their performance and assure them of how proud we were of them and that their mother and I would be in the stands cheering them on. Over the years, time and again, my children have referred to those letters as a source of inspiration, but also to let me know how much it meant to them to find them hidden in their bags, socks, shoes, and/or helmets and anywhere else I knew they would find them, as they got dressed for the occasion.
Here is an excerpt of that appreciation expressed by one of my daughters in a Father’s Day card:
“…It’s because of you that I know that I deserve to be treated well and with respect. I think most of all it’s because of you that I am not afraid to be myself and speak my mind even if it means that there will be people that don’t always agree…and on this day I hope you know how much you are appreciated and loved. I know how absolutely blessed I am to have you as my daddy and I am so proud that we have the relationship that we do…you are a great man and I love you with all my heart.”
It just doesn’t get any better than that!
When was the last time you wrote or received a hand written card/letter from your child?